You, Me & ADHD: ADHD Relationship Support
Welcome to the first post in the You, Me, and ADHD online book club. It’s not really a book club in the traditional sense. It’s a series of first-person essays based on reading my first book, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? My friend, Taylor J, writes about her personal reactions to each chapter. …
Chapter 1: Adult ADHD Myths Vs. Facts
Welcome back to the You Me ADHD Book Club, this time exploring important Adult ADHD Myths vs. Facts. The previous post focused on the book’s introduction. Now we enter Part I of the book’s three sections: “From the Tunnel of Love to the Roller Coaster: Could Your Partner Have ADHD?” Chapter 1 is entitled “Who Has …
Chapter 2: Living With Undiagnosed Adult ADHD
Living with undiagnosed ADHD, in a loved one or in oneself, can feel like being lost in the fog—often on a roller coaster. In fact, after the term roller coaster, the word that people most typically use when telling me their stories is fog. I opened Chapter 2 of Is It You, Me, or Adult …
Chapter 3: Deconstruct Your ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster
What does it mean to deconstruct your ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster? It’s my way of explaining that ADHD manifests differently in the individuals who have it. Moreover, the years that adults with ADHD (and their loved ones) spend without the benefit of diagnosis can result in all kinds of fairly unique twists and turns. It’s …
Chapter 4: ADHD Marriage and Money — Financial Loop De Loops
Money in an ADHD marriage. Whew. Money issues within my marriage are what drove me to the ADHD spouses support group, and what drove my husband to treatment. This season in our dual-AHDD marriage was long, and it was terrifying. It nearly drove us to divorce, twice. I’m so glad Chapter 4 exists. But I …
Chapter 5: How Adult ADHD Can Affect Driving
When I started researching Adult ADHD and relationships, way back in 1999, I found an impressive body of research on ADHD and Driving. Researchers such as Daniel Cox, using driving simulators, clearly documented ADHD-related driving challenges. Moreover, they showed that medication could improve driving safety. That was big. It made an impression. I shared some …
Chapter 6: ADHD and Sex — Peaks and Valleys In the Bedroom
Now we arrive at Chapter 6 in this virtual book club, Peaks and Valleys: ADHD in the Bedroom. That is, ADHD and sex. Sex in the extremes — all the time or never. Before we get to Taylor J’s personal essay based on that chapter, I’ll share the chapter’s opening. “What’s the group consensus …
Chapter 7: Mystifying ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster Twists and Turns
If the core challenge of ADHD is self-regulation, then we must understand: There are a lot of things for we humans to regulate. They don’t all show up on DSM-V ADHD symptom lists, either. I call this collection the ADHD Relationship Roller Coasters Twists and Turns. When I first started sleuthing answers to puzzling …
