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Adult ADHD Myths


Adult ADHD Myths Vs. Facts


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ADHD and self-regulation


Chapter 3: Deconstruct Your ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster

What does it mean to deconstruct your ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster?  It’s my way of explaining that ADHD manifests differently in the individuals who have it. Moreover, the years that adults with ADHD (and their loved ones) spend without the benefit of diagnosis can result in all kinds of fairly unique twists and turns. It’s …


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Adult ADHD and money


ADHD Marriage and Money — Financial Loop De Loops

Money in an ADHD marriage. Whew. Money issues within my marriage are what drove me to the ADHD spouses support group, and what drove my husband to treatment. This season in our dual-AHDD marriage was long, and it was terrifying. It nearly drove us to divorce, twice.  (This comes from guest writer Taylor J.) I’m …


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Chapter 5: How Adult ADHD Can Affect Driving

When I started researching Adult ADHD and relationships, way back in 1999, I found an impressive body of research on ADHD and Driving.  Researchers such as Daniel Cox, using driving simulators, clearly documented ADHD-related driving challenges. Moreover, they showed that medication could improve driving safety. That was big. It made an impression. I shared some …


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Chapter 7: Mystifying ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster Twists and Turns

If the core challenge of ADHD is self-regulation, then we must understand: There are a lot of things for we humans  to regulate.  They don’t all show up on DSM-V ADHD symptom lists, either. I call this collection the ADHD Relationship Roller Coasters Twists and Turns. When I first started sleuthing answers to puzzling …


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Explaining The Inexplicable In ADHD Relationships

Explaining the Inexplicable. I used that phrase to describe the first “loop de loop” on the ADHD Roller Coaster. In other words, when ADHD goes unrecognized or misunderstood in a partner, we can look for all kinds of alternate explanations for confusing behavior. For example, you and your partner agree to purchase nothing over $100 …


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Explaining the Inexplicable - second loop on the ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster


Chapter 10: The ADHD Relationship Roller Coaster’s Third Plunge

Welcome back to the “You, Me, and ADHD” virtual discussion group —based on my first book, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?  It’s always here for you, open 24-7.  Read a chapter based on each essay—or just read the essay. Then share your thoughts or experience—and read others. Here, Taylor shares her insights …


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Chapter 11: Self-Care Strategies for Right Now!

Welcome back to the You, Me, and ADHD Book Club! With Chapter 11, we discuss the importance of self-care for the partners of adults with ADHD. It’s the first chapter in the final-third section of the book: Success Strategies. What does self-care mean? Whatever it looks like for you.  A wife and mother with …


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Chapter 13: Psychological Denial of ADHD, or The FEAR Factor

By Taylor J. Chapter 13 is the first chapter under the #2 Success Strategy: Dealing with Denial. As such, it covers the common psychological reasons behind denial of ADHD– that is, for either partner denying that there’s any real problem going on. (Or, if there is a problem, it most certainly is not ADHD.) Most …


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