I sit at this desk, day after day and week after week, working hard on my next book (a professional guide for couples therapists treating ADHD-affected couples).
Talk about delayed gratification.
That’s why I’m encouraged to see that my first book (Is it You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?) is #1 today in Amazon’s ADHD category and #8 in counseling. Not bad for a title published in 2008.
That book took 8 years to write and edit, starting in late 1999. Keep in mind: There were very few titles on Adult ADHD then. And there were none that took a comprehensive approach to understanding ADHD, including when it is diagnosed later in life, its potential effect on the partners, and the evidence-based treatment strategies.
Throughout so many years of work, I’d ask my husband, “Do you really think anyone will read it?” Bless him, the answer was always “Of course! You’ll see.” The man deserves a medal for listening to me moan and groan and dip into self-doubt.
One of the topics covered in the new book is the importance of helping adults with ADHD to build incremental rewards into their goals.
This is helpful not just for people with ADHD but for their partners—and everyone else.
Even Dr. Russell Barkley wrote in Taking Charge of Aduilt ADHD that he sometimes rewards himself one Hershey’s Kiss after completing a page of writing. Yes, I know, I too imagine that I would just grab the entire bag.
That is a great book, by the way, full of down-to-earth strategies for getting real traction in your life.
So, this morning as I tangle with a chapter whose unwieldy parts are defying my executive function’s capacity to organize, it’s nice to have this bit of encouragement.