Be Careful With Those ADHD Eyeglasses
Maybe this has happened to you. As soon as you started learning about ADHD, you suddenly saw it all around you. You have officially donned your ADHD Eyeglasses.
Among many people you know, you started seeing oh-so-familiar behaviors in a new light—through the lens of ADHD knowledge.
Blame 21st century brain-science breakthroughs. That’s why we’re developing enlightened attitudes about the organ linked to everything we do, feel, or think: the brain.
Yet resistance remains. Understandably. We can’t expect everyone to immediately embrace the reality of ADHD: that it is real, it is more common than anyone knew, and it has the potential to limit the options and self-realization of those who have it. Change comes very slowly to some people.
Many People with ADHD Cannot See They Have It
Sure, we might find it exciting, our newfound ability to detect possible ADHD symptoms all around us, thanks to our shiny new ADHD Eyeglasses. Still, we do well to stifle the temptation to start “diagnosing” loved ones and acquaintances—or that fidgety guy ahead of us in the grocery check-out line.
For one thing, we could be wrong; only a trained professional can make a diagnosis. More critically perhaps, we could be right.
Certainly, some people might welcome our observation with gratitude; they’re relieved to finally understand why their lives often seemed unnecessarily frustrating. Others, however, will greet our “helpful factoids” with defensive walls—walls that, once erected, might remain immovable. Either way, the manner in which you initially share your insights can dramatically affect outcome.
What’s more, no matter how clearly you start seeing ADHD, other people with ADHD might not see things the way you do.
Think of it this way: The person with weak vision may not realize what they’ve been missing until trying on eyeglasses
(Personally, I’ve gotten a shock when I’ve neglected to remove my reading glasses before ambling into the kitchen. And here I’d thought the counters were spic ‘n’ span!)
Likewise, a person with unrecognized ADHD knows only the way life has always been. Moreover, ADHD symptoms themselves can “blind” their ability to accurately perceive themselves or their behaviors.
Moreover, just as ADHD can distort individuals’ self-image, it can also distort their image of loved ones. Who wins in a world full of misperceptions and distortions?
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