When ADHD Leads to “Self-Medicating” With Argument

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For many reasons, ADHD-challenged relationships often brim with arguments and conflicts.  But why do some people with ADHD self-medicate with argumentWhat does that phrase even mean?

Simply, it refers to the stimulation some people get by provoking a conflict—consciously or not. If you don’t understand this phenomenon, it can spell disaster for your relationship.  It can also leave you the unwitting patsy of online trolls.

I first became aware of this pattern early in my own marriage. This came before my husband’s diagnosis and for a few years afters. After I started a discussion group for the partners of adults with ADHD, I asked others if it sounded familiar. Ah-ha, I wasn’t alone. This was the early 2000s.

A Subconsciously Rewarding Behavior

Let me be absolutely clear: Nothing about ADHD is universal. This is an example. Many people with ADHD are, if anything, argument-averse. And certainly, you needn’t have ADHD to be an argumentative son of a gun.

But some individuals with ADHD do habitually bait others into heated disagreements. It’s typically a subconscious behavior. They’ve learned on some level that stimulation or adrenaline or…something…gives them a feeling of focus and calm. Because this dysfunctional pattern is rewarding, it gets reinforced over time.

The provocations can take place anywhere–in traffic, online, with co-workers.  But these conflict-seeking behaviors can especially happen within relationships—and leave the other person feeling confused and depressed.

“I’ve never understood until now,” says Marie. “I mean, why I would be reduced into tears after one of these episodes with my husband. But he, I swear, would have a smirk on his face. As if, ‘I win.’  What a sick way to get turned on.”

It’s complicated, though. For example, when the ADHD partner has poor insight to their behaviors, they might truly feel they are the ones being treated unfairly—or provoked. They might feel “all’s fair in love and war” and strike back in response to what they feel are unwarranted attacks. Ach, what a painful mess.

“Too Much Fighting” — Common in ADHD Relationships

In fact, “too much fighting” was a top reason for leaving the relationship, according to  ADHD Partner Survey respondents who had divorced,  separated from, or stopped dating their ADHD partner.

Interestingly, one study showed 58% of divorcing couples (in the general population) stated as the reason : “too much conflict and arguing”.  How many of these survey respondents were unknowingly affected by ADHD?  I bet more than a few. (Check out the chart and a fantastic drove of data at the Hernorm website, linked to at the end of this post.)

There are plenty of reasons for conflict in ADHD relationships. Until both partners get on board with understanding ADHD and its treatment strategies, they almost guarantee conflict as a way of life.

But I’m talking now about a propensity solely within the adult who has ADHD.

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One Type of Conflict: Provocation and Argumentation

The myriad  “self-medicating with conflict” factors within an individual can include:

  • Poor communication created by ADHD-related challenges in listening and remembering
  • Impulsivity in responding before understanding—or from misunderstanding
  • Mood dysregulation, a common trait with ADHD, manifested in short tempers, angry outbursts, and chronic irritability
  • “Denial” of ADHD symptoms (with both physiological and psychological underpinnings)
  • Being unaware of these factors, so tending to blame the other person for the conflict and poor communications
  • A co-existing condition such as conduct disorder or antisocial personality disorder, autistic spectrum disorder, or even anxiety, depression, and obsessive-compulsive disorder
  • Ignorance around all these factors, which throws fuel on the fire

Again, it’s typically not intentional behavior — though some are very aware, even proud of, their propensity to “stir the pot.”

But that doesn’t make it any less exhausting—or destructive.

It Happens in Dual-ADHD Couples, Too!

Jaclyn Paul at The ADHD Homestead wrote about this in her “Book Club” guest essay. Specifically, she described her husband’s response to reading this part of my first book:

There was a part in Gina’s book where she mentioned that ADHD’ers have a tendency to antagonize others just for the novelty.

I recognized that behavior in myself immediately, and it brought me to tears as I finally accepted that I had ADHD and that I’d been the cause of so many arguments in so many relationships.

I resolved that if nothing else, I had to try to fix that.

To read Jaclyn’s full essay:  How Can Medication Help ADHD Relationships?

ADHD Relationships & Arguments

In about 2001, I happened upon a book by psychiatrist Daniel Amen, MD: Change Your Brain, Change Your Life. That’s how I learned about ADHD. It certainly did change my life—and many others’ lives after I took up this mission.

At that time, he and his clinic were in the Bay Area.  From the stories I’d hear in my local discussion group, I knew him as a psychiatrist able to help people failed by a string of previous psychiatrists.  When I read his description of self-medicating behavior, it validated the patterns I’ve long seen, personally and in my groups. I interviewed him for my first book.

Book Excerpt on This Phenomenon

Here’s an excerpt on the subject from Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder.

For Kimberly, here’s the hardest thing to understand about her husband. It doesn’t matter how accommodating she is, how hard she tries to avoid doing things that would make him angry. As long as he wants to be angry, he will find a reason.

Moreover, he wants to get angry a lot, and he will always find a way to make his anger her fault.

Then when he finally succeeds in provoking her anger and she loses her temper, she’ll suffer more accusations from him about her anger-management problem. Kimberly ends up feeling ashamed yet defensive because, she says, “Most people have no idea how determined some people with ADHD can be at provoking others.”

This apparent desire to be angry, and to provoke an angry response in others, can result from the ADHD partner’s biologically based need for stimulation, according to psychiatrist Daniel Amen. “Being mad, upset, angry, negative, or even oppositional immediately stimulates the brain’s frontal lobes,” he explains. “These behaviors can produce increasing amounts of adrenaline in the body, stimulating not only heart rate, blood pressure, and muscle tension but also brain activity. And many people with ADHD might pick on others to get a rise out of them.”

As Kimberly puts it: “My husband gets his adrenaline kick. But I just plain feel kicked.”

The chapter offers more examples, as well as tips to avoid entering a “self-medicating” argument.

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Don’t Take (or Dangle) The Bait!

Recognize the dysfunctional ADHD relationship pattern:

  • If your loved one with ADHD displays this behavior, it’s very important to stop “taking the bait.”
  • I offer suggestions in the book as to how you can begin detaching and effectively rewarding the behavior.  My favorite? When your ADHD partner just won’t let up, say, “I’m very interested in hearing what you have to say but I really need to use the bathroom.”  Then, lock yourself in the bathroom with about 20 minutes of reading material. By that time, your partner might have calmed down—or have forgotten the reason for the conflict.
  • If you are the person with ADHD stuck in this pattern, recognize how destructive “dangling the bait” can be to your relationships.
  • Try to understand that, because ADHD can limit self-awareness, you might not see this clearly until you try medication.  As one man said to my local Adult ADHD group:

“I’ve been taking medication for 2 weeks,. It turns out: My wife is not the nasty *itch I thought she was. Instead, it was me and my ADHD interfering with my attention, making listening to her painful.”

As you both become mindful of this ADHD Relationship Argument phenomenon, you’ll soon make a discovery. That is: Many of your “arguments” have nothing to do with legitimate issues.  They spring solely from one of you subconsciously seeking stimulation—and the other taking the bait.

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Self-Medicating with Other Negative Activities

For another look at this phenomenon, check Our Lost Weekend Without Meds.

Jason had not known his boyfriend before his diagnosis and medication treatment started.  When his boyfriend told him that, thanks to one snag after another, he’d have to go the weekend with medication, Jason thought, “no big deal.”  But it was a big deal, culminating in this excerpt from his story:

When we finally cleared the air over who was responsible for him being lost, we sat down to relax by watching TV. He chose a show about terrorist training. After all the bad news on this topic, not to mention the last three days’ tension at home, I didn’t consider that relaxing. “But it’s really good!” he insisted.

After 20 minutes of watching him “self-medicate” by seeing torture victims suffer atrocities, I said, “No, I don’t want to watch this.” He stubbornly left it on, so I left the room. He said, “If you don’t like it, change the channel!” He had forgotten that he was holding the damn thing in a death grip. Argh!

More About Marriage and Divorce Statistics:

Here is the link I mentioned earlier, to the  Hernorm website: Marriage and Divorce Statistics: How Many Relationships Last?  It takes a comprehensive, clear look at marriage and divorce in terms of numbers as well as marriage and divorce trends over the years.

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Peace out,

Gina Pera
A version of this post first appeared on April 26, 2010

42 thoughts on “When ADHD Leads to “Self-Medicating” With Argument”

  1. hey some with adhd here and i’m having this issues by myself and this distructive behavoiur is terrible and hurt me more than ever and want help to change it because some throw all the fight some subcounconsiously it has been consider reward wich i would rath not have this trait how does one help your self help your self to not do some much damge to one self, please help me

    1. Hi Mark,

      I’m glad this post resonated for you — because it points to an important strategy for healing this behavior. And, that is…..treating ADHD symptoms.

      Are you currently diagnosed and taking medication? If so, the medication should be reducing irritablity/boredom/self-medicating behaviors.

      Sometimes people on amphetamines find it makes this pattern worse. So, maybe try the other class of stimulants, methylphenidate.

      Where are you in terms of treatment? There’s typically no good reason that a person has to live with this.

      best,
      Gina

  2. I find this somewhat of a comfort to read this article. Should probably get your book. My ex I think was ADD or ADHD but never diagnosed or treated. I have 3 children and the two oldest were diagnosed as ADD or ADHD but never really tested other than with ritalin or treated for it. They are in their 50’s now. My youngest almost died when he was born and suffered lack of oxygen to the brain. He has cerebral palsy and we were told mildly retarded but was later tested and said to have learning disabilities. I suspect he may be ADD to because he sure has some of the behavior. The sister I am closest to believes she has ADD and has one child and grandchildren with ADD. I have another sister who has never been diagnosed but she too shows some signs of it. My reason for giving all this information is to say how frustrated I have been for years in trying to relate to and get along with all of them……….especially my own children and their dad (by the way I think his 3rd wife may have it too). I have been saying for years………I am SO SO tired of the arguing and fighting. You are going along having a conversation and suddenly you are in an argument. Mostly with my children. With their dad, it has been mostly in how he treated me and everyone, which got better but has recently been a little problem. With my sister……..no arguments but frustration sometimes in trying to relate to her. She talks freely about herself and family and what she is interested in talking about but when I start to talk about something else its like she just sits quietly and often doesn’t say anything. It always leaves me feeling like there is something she wants to say that she isn’t saying. My youngest child who is handicapped just seems to want to debate everything and do the opposite of what I need him to do. I am truly at my wits end with all of them. My daughter and I are finally getting along but if I had to live with her, I don’t think we would. Not so much that she wants to fight but due to other problems she has. But the one thing I see in all of them………..they have little to no interest in what you have to say and tend to dismiss you or treat you like you don’t know what you are talking about. When in fact I often know more about what we are discussing than they do. Because of the care of my handicapped son and my own health problems at the moment………..I am pretty much isolated and no longer have the opportunity to get out and make other friends. But sometimes trying to relate to those close to me leave me so dissatisfied and frustrated…………I sometimes think I would be better off if isolated myself from them a little bit. I guess what I am trying to say is how do I deal with them so that I don’t come away feeling so disappointed and frustrated and upset. I am obviously expecting more from the relationship than I am going to get. I love all of them and don’t want them out of my life. Just want to know how to deal with them.

    1. Hi Sheron,

      Just reading about what you’ve been up against leaves me a bit exhausted. I cannot imagine living with it.

      How can you “deal” with them? That depends on your relationship with each.

      If you read more about this in my first book, https://amzn.to/3ykiqSu, there are some suggestions.

      But overall, the best strategy is to encourage treatment. Random trials of Ritalin is not enough.

      Your sister already “believes” she has ADHD. She might need help doing something about it. (Read Chapter 12!).

      I don’t know about people with CP taking a stimulant. It’s worth asking the treating physician.

      Until they can better manage symptoms, the most you can do is avoid “getting into it” with them. Sometimes, when the person stops getting the “payoff”, they stop the behavior. But probably that doesn’t happen very often!

      Also, if you can find other social connections, it might help you feel less need to socialize with the relatives that create these problems for you. Even online, there are groups.

      Getting validation and support is important.

      My course features a Zoom meeting option, where you could meet other people talking about similar issues. The course itself could explain a LOT for you (and your family).

      Here is the sales page but I suggesting waiting to purchase until tomorrow, when the anniversary sale begins!

      https://adhdsuccesstraining.com/solving-your-adult-adhd-puzzle-for-couples-and-individuals/

      Take care of yourself!!!
      g

  3. I was married to a man with ADHD for 15 years, together 20. We recently divorced and I was looking for answers for my healing journey. I am in therapy (kids too) to talk things out but my experience was very similar to the other commenters and to the article. I always felt he would start fights for small/petty things and I would even say ” this is not worth the fight” but he would go on and on until he punched holes in the walls or I was crying. He would go from “0-100” instantly and he would twist my words until I didn’t know which way was up anymore. If he started getting heated in an argument, I would call him out and say I didn’t want to fight and he would say it was a friendly discussion– if I walked away, he got angry and if I stayed, we talked more and he got angry. He turned to alcohol and medical marijuana to ease his symptoms which only made things worse for me and the kids. I thought he was a narcissist instead.
    We’ve now been divorced 7 months and I have never felt so free and “light”.. as if a huge weight has been lifted. Leaving has been the best thing I could have done for my mental health because I couldn’t cope with it anymore.

    1. Hi Melissa,

      This kind of behavior pattern can be so destructive — to everyone in its path.

      Sometimes, “coping tips” will help….such as walking away and others I mention in my first book.

      But sometimes, it is just relentless and mind-numbing — and no amount of “tips” will help. Only leaving.

      It’s a shame that it comes to that for so many couples and families. For many people, ADHD treatment can help this and many other problematic behaviors.

      take care,
      g

  4. Reading and crying…
    47 years old. Married for 18 years to a 50 year old with ADHD diagnosis (which he got when our son was diagnosed, 11 years ago at age 4).
    The fighting is really bad at the moment. The 4 year old is now 15 and exhibiting the same way of ‘self-medicating’. He does it through ‘profanity’ as well. Looks like Tourette, but different. He’ll just randomly say racist things, or other curse words, to me, his mom as well. Terrible words, but I can almost literally ‘see’ that it’s ‘stress relieve’ for him.
    I just don’t know how much more I can take. My daughter (13) and I are exhausted, and constantly walking on egg shells. There’s this constant under current of tension. When times are stressful it’s all ‘worse’, so these end of year weeks, with exams, school outings, plays etc are ‘the worst’, but the base line is worse too, because we are living with teenagers now (that brings ‘worries’, hence ‘stress’), my husband gets angry about everything… And still, it was comforting to read this, to know I’m not crazy… I used to never ever have arguments with anybody, and he has sucked me in. Whatever I do to ‘avoid’ it, he is not satisfied until we go ‘all out’, until we have screamed, cursed, I have cried (about which he yells that I shouldn’t)… I have used language I never thought I would, which he has since used against me (…but you have also called me…).

    1. Hi Nienke,

      COVID has pushed, for many of us, coping skills to the brink.

      If your son and husband are not getting ADHD treatment, is there some reason for that?

      You’re never going to win with this pattern. And this pattern is probably just one manifestation of problematic ADHD-related behaviors.

      I’m no expert on Tourette’s, but I seem to recall something I read in a paper…..that when Tourette’s exists with ADHD, treating the ADHD can help the Tourette’s “tics” – which can include verbal ones.

      Your son is 15. Honestly, you don’t have much time left to seek meaningful treatment.

      I encourage you to learn all you can. If you haven’t already, read my first book. It will give you a solid foundation.

      Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?

      good luck,
      Gina

    2. Thank you so much for your reply Gina. Both husband and son are in medication. We (husband and I) had training on ‘how to deal with children with ADHD’ and we went to couples counseling. In all the therapies and consultations with ‘experts’ though, our ‘fighting’ was addressed as ‘normal fighting’. Advice given to me was to ‘not leave bags in the hallway if I knew my husband was annoyed by that’. What they didn’t seem to get, is that this was just an example from ‘yesterday’ and that tomorrow it would be the teabags misplaced, or whatever…
      Whatever I did, it would never be enough…
      I have always tried to tell my husband that even though there was ‘no judgement’, this was no ‘ordinary way’ of fighting. But he always made it out to be a 50-50 deal… I’m at my wits end, how do I make him see, first of all, that without addressing ‘this issue’, which is, unfortunately ‘his issue’, we will never get out of this…

    3. Hi Nienke,

      Great! You will see what those “counselors” missed. “Don’t leave bags in the hallway.” Yeah, right. lol

      When I conducted the ADHD Partner Survey, in researching my first book, respondents said that “too much fighting” was the major reason for leaving the relationship. There is nothing “normal” about the kind of fighting that can happen. As you saw with this post.

      Truly, a major motivation for me taking up this mission was the absolute, horrifying lack of any understanding about Adult ADHD among “mental health professionals.”

      From prescribers to therapists…..we must be extremely cautious and knowledgeable before even selecting one. And then work WITH them.

      When asked to produce the first ADHD couple therapy clinical guide, I knew it would be a LOT of work — and clinical guides are not huge money makers (not even medium money makers). But I knew that something had to change.

      It took four years! It’s well-regarded but it still takes time for more professionals to start using our model.

      Finally, I created online training. To take the lessons directly to the people, individuals and couples.

      Here is the foundational course.

      https://adhdsuccesstraining.com/solving-your-adult-adhd-puzzle-for-couples-and-individuals/

      Many folks with ADHD aren’t great readers — especially when reading on an unpleasant topic. Many of those folks love my course. Short videos. Non-threatening approach. Sophisticated science presented simply.

      Not trying to sell you here. It’s just a good course that is helping many people.

      I would question how well that medication is being prescribed and suggest revisiting it. I’m almost finished with course 2, on sleep and medication.

      https://ginapera.adhdsuccesstraining.com/course-2-physical-strategies

      take care,
      g

    4. PS: I immediately ordered your book! Reading a whole book is impossible for my husband though, even on medication. Maybe I will just gift it to our local experts, so they can better help us (and others!).

    5. Thank you so much! I think that might be a very good idea. Thank you for all your work on this topic! It felt like such a relief to finally read ‘validation’ of what I have been up against for 18 years, and no one seemed to recognize or understand it, most disregarded it. So thank you!
      I will read the book and will try to mobilize my husband to do the online training. He is always willing to try (mention the positives too!)…

  5. This article about some people with adhd, self medicating with arguments has given me such relief, because I didn’t understand why my boyfriend with adhd would provoke and explode fights even when I didn’t want to fight or engage in a fight. I tried being empathetic, reflecting, and not taking the bait … and still by bf with adhd twisted my words, insulted me and broke up with me telling me to “go to hell.” I never insulted him, I just tried to support him and give my view on things and he instead would impose his beliefs of what I thought, opinions I don’t believe in, or things I didn’t even say! It was almost like he was fighting with a character he was making up. When he tried to provoke me I would just say “ok” and walk away, because I didn’t want to fight! Im so tired and relieved he broke up with me. I blocked him because Im afraid he’ll come back or even come look for me. Honestly I feel like stress left my body… after he told me we were done. Happy crying right now. I don’t deserve to be anyone’s emotional, mental punching bag.

    1. Hi D,

      I’m glad you found my blog post!

      Perfect way to summarize — “it was almost like he was fighting with a character he was making up.”

      Sounds like he did you a favor by breaking things off.

      If this happens again with anyone — a relative, co-worker, date – you will recognize it quickly now.

      take care,
      g

  6. This was a great article. I recently noticed this behavior in myself, a 60 yr old male adult with ADHD. I could feel the adrenaline rush as I slowly but surely spoke antagonistically to my spouse and watched the argument unfold as if I was a third party spectator. Ironically, after the argument I had the best night sleep while leaving everyone else in turmoil. How awful! Everyone wants an apology while I, the instigator, was completely confused as to why it even unfolded the way it did.

    1. Hi Paul,

      Thank you so much! That is an extremely vivid and economical paragraph, explaining this phenomenon so expertly from the inside out.

      g

  7. I wonder if Putin has ADHD?
    (Disclaimer: no offence intended to anyone in any way, except for one man)
    PS: Gina, I believe you have the patience of a saint

    1. Hi Josie!

      Haha! I’m not seeing the ADHD in Putin. He’s been playin ga “long game,” it seems.

      My theory is that his ego is entirely the state (like Louis XIV — l’etat, c’est moi!). And he has a fatal diagnosis. So he’s going all out. Perhaps treatment for that fatal diagnosis has made him behave even more irrationally. Who can read the mine of a sociopathic despot! ? 🙂

      Re: patience of a saint…my husband is sitting right here at the breakfast table with me. He says, “Her husband confirms that is true.”

      Which is very sweet of him, as I still am 100% Italian and a lower-by-the-year tolerance for BS of any kind. 🙂

      Take care, kid! Thanks for writing.

      G

  8. These comments and this article are incredibly devastating to me.

    It becomes very clear that ADHD is sorely misunderstood.

    People with ADHD think differently. They have bursts of thoughts simultaneously. They do not think linearly or in an organized fashion. Because of this, different connections can be made. Neurotypicals have a society to which they belong, that creates social constructs and rules. Well, so do people with ADHD. Just because they are the minority does not make their experience or their reality less valuable than yours.

    A lot of negativity is directed toward people with ADHD simply because they are misunderstood or follow different social rules. The same way people may think a person with ADHD is rude and that person is unaware, the neurotypical can be considered rude to a person with ADHD and be unaware. You expect the person with ADHD to correct this, but not the neurotypical to correct it. So then, everything involves the person who has executive function difficulties also accommodating everyone else on top of dealing with their struggles.

    Which is what people with ADHD do constantly and to no avail (I say no avail because regardless of how much effort is put forth on behalf of the ADHD individual, they will still receive criticism and negativity and be told they should “try harder” all the while receiving no effort from the other party to reconcile anything)

    Blaming ADHD for arguments also allows neurotypicals to argue and blame the person with ADHD and feel guiltless about it. But it’s quite frustrating as someone with ADHD who avoids conflict that someone who read this article and consistently is quick to anger says it must be me because it would feed my ADHD. When in every other aspect in my life, there is zero conflict. Further, I have a child with ADHD. The child is argumentative. But it comes from being raised with double standards. That’s common with Oppositional Defiant disorder.

    That one parent is strict and the other lenient. Well the child is in a blended family and has 4 parents. 2 are overly lenient. 1 is quite strict. 1 is middle of the road. And the child has step siblings who have an entirely different and much more lenient upbringing. Different rules applied to different kids about the same things. In the same house. The child with ADHD feels resentful for being held to a much higher nearly impossible standard while nobody else is.

    So before you blame conflict on ADHD consider that maybe it’s not ADHD at the root, or people who get a rise from arguments (actually they kill the person with ADHD’s self esteem), but perhaps defending themselves as a vulnerable population against people who use that as an excuse to create and engage in conflict or just simply don’t understand ADHD.

    1. Hi Victoria,

      Thanks for your thoughtful comment. I’m sorry that you feel devastated. That was never my intention.

      If I read it in the same way you apparently have, and if I had ADHD, I’d be insulted and lose all interest in the writer’s other work.

      But can we step back a minute? From what you’ve written, it seems you have interpreted the article as being “negative” about ADHD and ADHD-related different communication/thinking styles. You view the post as being about “neurotypicals” not understanding people with ADHD and so saying bad things about them.

      I wonder if you read it again, slowly, with a more open mind, you might have a different interpretation.

      In the CBT models shown effective for ADHD, we talk about how thoughts/interpretations guide our feelings — and then our reactions. By attributing many things to this post that are not there (thought), it’s quite possible you created your own a counter-productive feeling (“devastated”).

      Instead, what I’ve presented here is one particular issue — the very real potential among some with ADHD for “self-medicating with argumentation”.

      This “self-medicating with argumentation” phenomenon is real, though not universal. This is not a case of linear vs. non-linear or ADHD vs. Non-ADHD.

      NOTHING is universal among people with ADHD. We are talking hundreds of genes as potential contributors to ADHD symptoms, along with all the other genes and aspects of personality. We are also talking about all variety of co-existing conditions and lifestyle habits that further impair cognition (poor sleep, etc..)

      I know it’s quite popular online these days to talk about “neurotypicals vs neurodiverse.” To talk about the “ADHD Brain.” But while many people with ADHD can relate to variable aspects of having ADHD, they aren’t clones.

      All that is marketing lingo, designed to dumb-down the complexity of ADHD and….let’s be honest, sell stuff, gain a following on Twitter, etc.. without having to do the hard work of understanding ADHD in all its potential complexity.

      The human population is called “neurodiverse”. Meaning, our brains are not cookie-cutters. Each human brain is like a snowflake—different than all the other brains. That goes for people with ADHD, too.

      Unfortunately, amateurs and self-promoters have hijacked these terms for their own self-serving agenda.

      Nothing about ADHD is simple. But one fact is true: ADHD is related to dysregulated dopamine transmission in the brain. That means people with poorly managed ADHD often find themselves constantly searching for greater stimulation in their environment.

      That’s why people with untreated ADHD are more vulnerable to developing addictions. Videogames, speeding, social media, and alcohol, to name a few “self-medicating” activities….AND unconsciously provoking arguments.

      You write: Further, I have a child with ADHD. The child is argumentative. But it comes from being raised with double standards.

      Maybe you’re right. Maybe you’re not. Either way, that is one child with ADHD. An “n” of 1 does not negate the point I am making in this blog post.

      So, before you blame a blog post for creating an emotional impact on you, perhaps you want to consider that you might be mis-understanding or missing a larger view of this highly complex syndrome called ADHD.

      Cheers,
      g

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