For almost 20 years, my goal has been clear: reduce suffering and elevate the discourse around Adult ADHD.
More specifically, what are my qualifications? Excellent question.
I am an award-winning journalist and pragmatic problem-solver who saw a crying need for increased ADHD awareness, support, and improved treatment standards. Then I set out to fill that need. (Recently, on a pivotal birthday, I looked up and realized, “Wow, where did the last 20 years ago!” haha!)
Beyond that, you’ll find that my work defies easy categorizations. That makes me a marketer’s nightmare. But, as a veteran journalist and ADHD advocate, my focus has been on service. I synthesize information from well-vetted sources into comprehensible language and strategies.
Bottom line: I bring you a complex set of skills and approaches. My work is driven by a passionate devotion to help people understand—and thrive in the presence of—this complex condition called ADHD.
About Gina’s Background:
A few things you should know about me:
I do not have a PhD or MD
Yes, I do not have an advanced degree in psychology or psychiatry—or anything else. It took 17 years of study for me to call myself an Adult ADHD Expert—and only after top experts such as Russell Barkley, PhD, endorsed my work and recognized me as such.
For example, Dr. Russell Barkley invited me to contribute a chapter to his “gold standard” ADHD diagnosis and treatment guide—it’s first-ever chapter on couple therapy. You can find it here:
Routledge Press, a prestigious publisher of professional guides, asked me to produce the first evidence-based guide for therapists treating ADHD-challenged couples (Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy, with Arthur Robin, PhD, Routledge, January 2016, ).
I take this topic seriously
Many of you know me for my rigor in
- Combing the literature
- Interviewing top experts
- Synthesizing in practical terms what we know about ADHD with what I have observed in my 16 years of intensive contact with people affected by ADHD
- Teasing out the cross-disciplinary issues that experts with a narrow focus miss
- Calling out charlatans and smooth talkers. That includes MDs, PhDs, therapists, and coaches who proclaim ADHD expertise but truly lack it.
Real lives hang in the balance. Including children’s. We cannot afford the interference of hucksters and mindless marketers. As a journalist, it pains me what passes for “news sites”—with no vetting, no editing, and sometimes only “clickbait.”
I make cross-disciplinary connections (e.g. between sleep and ADHD)
When I started this work, many cross-disciplinary connections were unheard of. That includes the potential connections between ADHD and central processing disorder, sleep apnea, sexual difficulties, reading comprehension, parenting challenges, and more.
Early on, I pieced together and popularized many of these connections. I did that by digging through the literature (not just ADHD-related), interviewing scientific experts, and listening to the stories of thousands of people with ADHD and their partners
Still, I respect my limits. Rather than speculate, I will point readers to solid sources of information or professional care.
I do not have ADHD, but that doesn’t make me “neurotypical”
I find “tribal” mindsets more divisive than helpful. That’s why I call ADHD Extreme Human Syndrome.
There is no gene yet identified that is associated with ADHD but not distributed throughout the human genome.
In other words, traits such as procrastination, stimulation-chasing, creativity….these are human traits. They are not limited to people with ADHD. What makes the diagnosis then? The severity and level of impairment.
My perspective: The less we put people into boxes, the better we can problem-solve
Make no mistake: I intimately understand the challenges faced by my many friends with ADHD. But I also understand that they are first and foremost individuals. They share only certain aspects of a highly variable condition.
For years, I have led a popular Adult ADHD discussion group in Silicon Valley—free and open to the public. We have a core group of regulars, but new folks constantly turn up. Each month, 25-40 adults with ADHD, age 18 to 85, discuss a range of topics. No one sitting in that room month after month harbors the illusion that people with ADHD are clones or fit some “type.” They clearly see that’s not the case.
The folks who gather there share overlaps of ADHD-related challenges. But they very much carry their own unique strengths and weaknesses, talents and abilities.
The same is true for my friends who are the partners of adults with ADHD. They are individuals. And, guess what? Some of them have ADHD, too!
I’m not a “relationships expert”—my expertise lies in addressing ADHD’s myriad potential effects in life, including relationships
Yes, my husband has ADHD, diagnosed at age 37. Thanks to me and not his ex-girlfriend, the neurosurgeon, nor his peers or professors while earning his PhD in molecular biology.
Yes, I have for more than a decade led free support groups for the partners of adults with ADHD. The private online group has 1,000 members.
Yes, Russell Barkley, PhD, asked me to write the first-ever chapter on couple therapy in his “gold standard” clinical guide.
Yes, my first book was the first to clearly document and educate about the effect of poorly managed ADHD on the partners, to explain the potential dysfunctional patterns in this relationshiops, and to explain healing strategies.
More than anything, however, my approach has been to explain ADHD itself, including its effect on the partners, and ADHD treatment and cooperative strategies.
With my colleague, psychologist Arthur L. Robin, PhD, I have now produced the first clinical guide for therapists treating ADHD-challenged couples. In it, we present an evidence-based model for this type of couple therapy.
But do I consider myself a marriage or relationships expert? No, I leave that to the professionals. But I work to help the professionals understand the “ADHD piece” and know how to help couples with ADHD-related issues.
Tip: Many ADHD-challenged couples don’t need “couple therapy” at all. They need help in cooperatively organizing their schedules or their household and in breaking their dysfunctional patterns developed during the time ADHD was unrecognized or not understood. Each couple has their own needs.
I don’t participate in affiliate marketing or online ADHD marketing networks
There is only one reason I would showcase an expert, book, video, or product with you: Because I deem that person or product credible and useful. Period.
My Personal Story:
How Did I Become
An Accidental Adult ADHD Expert?
My foray into the field of ADHD began by chance. In 1999, I picked up a library book about the brain. And what I read changed my life, my husband’s life, and eventually many other lives.
Funny enough, that book was Dr. Daniel Amen’s Change Your Brain, Change Your Life.
In that book, I read about something called Adult ADHD. Suddenly, I had a clue why, as much as we loved each other, my then-fiancee and I were driving each other nuts! I showed the book to him, a molecular biologist who fortunately could vouch for the authenticity of the information on ADHD. “Doesn’t this sound like you as a kid?” I asked him. “And, well, doesn’t it sound like you now?” He agreed.
In fact, he further opined that “something was up” with me, too. I could not disagree. (He was diagnosed with ADHD. I was “diagnosed” with being a “complex person.” We still joke about this.)
As I would later write in my book, I was “reacting to the inexplicable” by trying to “manage the unmanageable”—and getting more frustrated by the day. So, off we went to navigate our mutual mental-healthcare maze.
The Evaluating Psychiatrist Was…Uninspiring
I quickly learned that if we left this up to the psychiatrist, we’d keep twisting in the wind. The prescribing process was lackadaisical at best, reckless at worst. And this was at a well-known ADHD clinic.
Could other “partners of” be in the same boat? Perhaps their physicians also poorly understood the pervasive effects of ADHD on their partners—not to mention the often drastic side effects of inappropriately prescribed medication.
To find out, I started an online discussion group. (That group is about 1,000 members strong now, with membership throughout the English-speaking world.) Many of the first-person stories in my first book come from that group. These were people whose stories I had long followed—not random anonymous people responding to an online survey.
(Even though I was also leading a face-to-face group for adults with ADHD, I did not have their stories in the book. For many reasons, I could not sit there taking notes, and I had no written record. I figured that other books included their stories.)
It’s not enough to say that I was stunned at the widespread ignorance about ADHD, including among medical and mental-health professionals. Frankly, I was outraged. Story after story left me heartsick at what was passing for ADHD care in the U.S., not to mention beyond.
There is quite enough suffering in the world that cannot be prevented. The suffering that comes from unrecognized ADHD is not one of them.
We have a strong knowledge base about ADHD. We have excellent treatment strategies. All we lack is more people willing to step into the 21st Century and apply what we know.
First Step: Advocacy
Deciding to put to use my background as a print journalist, I became a persevering advocate for better awareness and evidence-based treatment standards.
I do support anyone’s right to take medication without stigma. I know many ethical, brilliant, and compassionate ADHD researchers who have received grants and other support from the pharmaceutical industry, and that is just fine.
Personally, however, I have never sought or received funding from pharmaceutical companies.
Next Step: Producing a Comprehensive Guide
After a few years, I grew tired of repeating the same information. Moreover, people were too stressed to absorb it verbally.
It became clear that folks needed a nuts-and-bolts guide to Adult ADHD, especially as it affects relationships. A guide that also addressed the “emotional baggage” that comes with late-diagnosis—baggage carried by both partners in the relationship.
These folks clearly needed a consumers guide to Adult ADHD treatment strategies, including:
- The particulars of therapy to seek (and avoid)
- A common-sense medication protocol that so few prescribing physicians seemed to know about (and perhaps that’s why so many people had unnecessary side effects and gave up on treatment altogether), and
- That big deal breaker: how to get through a loved one’s “denial” (another topic not covered in any existing consumer book on ADHD before mine).
That’s why I wrote Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder (2008, 1201 Alarm Press, San Francisco).
I am grateful to the many top experts who granted interviews, vetted chapters, and endorsed the book. It has won four national book awards and, last I checked, has 223 five-star reviews on Amazon. It’s a book I am thrilled to be able to hand to people who are struggling. (Because, after all, I couldn’t keep typing the same advice in our support group for another 10 years!)
The New Book! For Couple Therapists! (And Couples Who Cannot Find ADHD-savvy Therapists!)
For four years, I holed up in my 10′ x 10′ office, producing the first evidence-based professional guide for therapists treating ADHD-challenged couples:
Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions (Routledge, 2016).
Arthur L. Robin, PhD, and I produced this book, and we each wrote several chapters. Contributors include Russell J. Ramsay, PhD., Barbara Easterlin, PhD, Carol Ann Robbins, PhD, and Kevin Roberts, MA.
We hope it will revolutionize the state of ADHD couple therapy internationally. Leading experts in the fields of couple therapy and Adult ADHD have praised the book.
While I was working on this book, preeminent ADHD expert Russell Barkley, PhD, asked me to produce the first-ever chapter on couple therapy for his “gold standard” clinical guide: Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment (Guilford; 2014). I am honored to be among a standout roster of ADHD expert contributors.
Soon: Online ADHD Success Training
Right now, web-based seminars are in the works—to train clinicians and consumers in the principles of Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy™
To be notified as these courses come online, please sign up for the mailing list at ADHD Success Training.
We are offering CE hours for professionals (NBCC, with APA pending application).
And: The International ADHD Professionals Directory
Despite the criticisms scattered on the Internet, ADHD is not an “American invention.” I have met knowledgeable clinicians the world over. My goal is connecting the many readers who have written to me asking for referrals with ADHD professionals worldwide.
About This Blog
This blog contains a variety of information: book excerpts, guest essays, and updates on ADHD research and news in the popular press.
Always feel free to share in a comment your personal experiences and support. Your story could very well change someone’s life.
Thank you for your interest in Adult ADHD, and please try to keep an open mind if you are just beginning to learn about this incredibly complex condition.
One fact is clear: ADHD is real, and it affects real people’s lives. Maybe even your own or that of someone you love.
Thanks for your interest in my work,