Comments on: Action! Camera! Lights! Comic-Factual Look at ADHD on Canadian TV — Online until 9/25/09

By: Gina Pera

Gina Pera — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 04:56:45 +0000

Thanks for your comments, Mrs. Martin and C. I know you are not alone; in fact, you are expressing the opinion of hundreds (if not thousands) of people I’ve talked with over the years.

I am working on a post addressing the issues you mention — for http://www.ADHDPartner.org

Look for it soon!

By: C

Sat, 26 Sep 2009 12:45:18 +0000

Some people just don’t understand the frustration of having to put out fires constantly and the loneliness of being the one to be called controlling and a fifth grade teacher type as a result. I DIDN’T START OUT THIS WAY! I HAD TO BECOME THAT WAY AFTER YEARS OF SH*T! It is all light and fluffy until the sh*t hits the fan and then people stand back and say OH, I guess she just wasn’t the right one, hmmph!

I live in a province where the leading ADHD clinic, headed by one of the experts on this video, has been ‘temporarily’ closed because of too long a waiting list. Yet I am lucky to speak to any Dr. who really gets the idea of what ADD is and means in a marriage.

Other than that, yeah the video was highly entertaining and reminded me of the early days. If my partner was in the right job, i.e. highly employed T.V. personality I would be rolling on the sofa with him too, laughing at all the silly little addisms. Yup, I’m bitter. But hey, I guess it’s a start at awareness, right?

By: Mrs. Martin

Mrs. Martin — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 13:45:22 +0000

As wife to a 42 year old “great guy” who was diagnosed several months ago, I was glad to see accuracy, and a pulling together of the realities of having and living with someone who has adult ADHD.

I have great sadness, though, that my husband, 15 years ago, did not “marry the right person”. I am unable to be as laid back as seems necessary to both his and my peace. The stress of dealing with his erratic focus, erratic empathy and intimidating certainty of his own opinion of the moment (no big picture), has left me with someone who is not “there” for me. And the distance that creates hurts him, too.

Thanks for helping me see that I can’t be his “fifth grade teacher”, or relax about impulsive, thoughtless decisions that affect me. I have my own problems and life goals to address, and dealing with his has cost me dearly in terms of time, emotional energy and motivation. I’ve been so distracted and hurt by him, that my life has gone downhill, perhaps irreparably.

Our finances, due to impulsive decisions with long term relationship implications, are such that the type coaching and therapy that is clearly REQUIRED are out of our reach…..but a divorce can be obtained through legal aid. Too bad for our non-add 11 year old son.