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January 2009

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This morning, a journalist asked me to name three top challenges that ADHD poses to relationships. My first thought: “Finding the keys, the cell phone, and the wallet.” But that sounds so trivial, doesn’t it? Yes it does, until you’ve been pulled into an ADHD partner’s adrenaline-spiking, to-the-death search on a daily basis. And, in truth, other issues do loom much larger — like remembering to re-charge the cell phone. Another minor issue? Not when your child or partner is counting on you to stay in touch.

Now, I’d be the last person to suggest we can rely solely on organizational tools to resolve ADHD-related issues, especially as they affect relationships. But sometimes we get so caught up in the whirling vortex of bigger problems that we miss simple solutions to the smaller ones. For example, what could be easier than placing your keys, watch, gizmos-to-be-recharged, and whatnot in a tidy valet like this one (pictured right). Read the rest of this entry »

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The best part of having a blog is being able to share with you wonderful essays written by other people. After all, my journalistic background is as an editor — the person who assembles and polishes the entire magazine or newspaper. Recognizing talent is what I do best!

My friend Lew Mills, PhD, MFT is a San Diego-based psychotherapist with remarkably thoughtful perspectives on ADHD. Having it himself and having children with ADHD, Lew knows of what he speaks. I’ve always enjoyed his writing, and I’m pleased that he’s allowed me to share this one — about why being “special” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Think Different Differently

by Lew Mills, PhD, MFT

What is the most universal appeal in commercial advertising?

OK, yes, sex. Sure, I’d like to believe that the model in the beer ad is really flirting specifically with me. But really, our culture’s most beckoning appeal is to be “different.” The Apple Computer campaign, advocating that you “think different”, exploits it directly. Read the rest of this entry »

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Just a quick note to thank everyone who has so generously received my book, Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder (August 31, 2008, 1201 Alarm Press).

I noticed that today it is #3 on Amazon in the category of books on Adult ADHD (of which there many!) and #10 on books about couples and family therapy (of which there are hundreds!). Moreover, the reviews you’ve posted on Amazon have deeply touched my heart. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts and reactions — and especially to reach out to other potential readers with a message of hope and optimism. Read the rest of this entry »

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A physician with the World Anti-Doping Agency contends that ADD (as he calls it) is being overdiagnosed in major-league baseball. More importantly, it is over treated with medication. On what does he base this? The fact that he has rarely diagnosed the condition throughout his career.

Fail to see the logic? Me, too.

Just when I think this blog can move on to topics other than ADHD medical treatment, another flagrant show of ADHD ignorance makes the headlines. Being a big believer in speaking truth to misperception, I just can’t let it pass.

Besides, it’s pretty good timing. You know those physicians-in-denial-about-ADHD that Dr. Charles Parker wrote about last time? This physician serves as a good example. Read the rest of this entry »

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Speaking of ADHD and denial (as we were, with the previous post), Dr. Charles Parker wrote to say that treating physicians often compound the problem. I’ve personally witnessed this more times than I can count: An adult with ADHD is perfectly willing, even eager, to seek medical treatment, only to become so beset with side effects that medication is foresworn forever. This is a preventable tragedy. Dr. Parker explains:

Denial and misrepresentation of ADHD difficulties remains pervasive in spite of remarkable new science. One of the most important reasons, other than some simply not wanting to have a problem or take medications, is the fact that the basic new science is often overlooked. Most importantly, the psychiatric labels have not kept up with functional brain science. The current labels are too superficial, too descriptive, and lack functional biological significance.

The unhappy result of these circumstances: medical targets are imprecise, miss significant symptom objectives, and often are simply used capriciously. If docs don’t have a precise target, it’s almost impossible to hit the mark. Missing the mark directly correlates with encouraging denial. Read the rest of this entry »

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